Author Archives: J Madsen

I find it interesting how one person treating you poorly can snowball. Suddenly you are looking at how everyone else treats you and whether they are truely in your corner or not. This has just occurred to me, as I sit on an island with no phone reception, trying to make sense of what I’mContinue reading “Manipulation”

So often in our lives we are on a mission. We’re going to get groceries, we’re going to do that thing for work, we’re going to milk the cows, we’re very busy and important.Even when we do have downtime, we often fill it with other things – cleaning, children, doing odd jobs we know needContinue reading “Create space”

Growing up I was always encouraged to make a ‘pros and cons’ list when trying to make a decision. This was encouraged for anything ranging from which watch to buy, to which job opportunity to pursue. While this may be a sound method for some people, I have noticed that it has often lead meContinue reading “Making decisions”

Choices can be hard. I’ve noticed some conditions make them harder than others. Of course there are the obvious contributors – how much is at stake, how much time is allowed, what your choices are, how many choices there are, who the critics will be and how many critics there are. A fun fact IContinue reading “Choice Paralysis”

“You grow through what you go through” – Tyrese Gibson At the moment I have no set home base. This leaves me free to migrate around as I see fit. Allows me to live obligation free.I’m coming to realise that while this is an ah-may-zing way to live, but may be enabling some of myContinue reading “To run or stand your ground”

Trusting people is hard. Fully trusting yourself is even harder. Moving on when you know you need to move on – be it from a job, a place or a relationship. You know deep down when you need to, you should listen to that feeling. This is how I came to leave my job, Perth,Continue reading “Backing yourself”

I put my hand up as a control freak. I’ve been in denial for a while, but I’ve been realising it more and more over the past few months. I’m also coming to realise that it is like trying to drive with a handbrake on. I still tell myself I’m cool and roll with theContinue reading “The challenge of relinquishing control”