Backing yourself

Trusting people is hard. Fully trusting yourself is even harder.

Moving on when you know you need to move on – be it from a job, a place or a relationship. You know deep down when you need to, you should listen to that feeling.

This is how I came to leave my job, Perth, and people there. I knew deep down that nothing there was serving me to be my best self. Nothing there was giving me what I truely needed.
I’m not saying it was an easy decision. I had to sell my property and leave a job in which I had security and a stable source of income. It was all uncomfortable – it meant abandoning plans I’d made in my head, but I knew it was what was right for me. I backed myself in that decision, despite mixed support/lack of support from others in my life.

As the old addage says: It’s far easier to ask forgiveness than permission.
Not that you need either of those when making decisions in your own life.
But some people may make you feel like you do.
I’m coming to realise that sometimes you need to do what you need to do, then tell others later. Trust yourself. Back yourself.

My latest ‘back yourself’ challenge is starting a business rather than returning to one of the jobs I’ve been offered back on wages under who-knows-who as a manager. It’s often hard to pick what people are really like from an interview, even as an empath. For example recently I thought I was onto a good thing with a potential manager in one interview, but in the follow up I came to realise he was not someone I would be able to work successfully under. We were too different as people.
Now that’s not to say different is bad – diversity of opinions and backgrounds is hugely important to the success of any group. However, differences in values is something that can cause rifts. Values fit is important. In my particular example (maybe I’m being a tad petty here), prior to the follow up interview that morning I’d gone down to work with the cows on the farm, and we’d found a new calf had been born! Super exciting right?! The potential manager was unenthused, disinterested, not only about the newborn calf, but also about farm life in general. That’s a red flag to me.

So, surrounded by friends of mine who have started their own thriving businesses in Queensland, I’m channelling their drive and confidence to start my own.
I’ve got a unique skillset and a proven record of bringing out big improvements to projects, and to people.
Still, starting a business is a big decision.
It means valuing yourself. If you don’t value what you can do, why should anyone else?
Moreover, why should anyone pay you for your skills you don’t exude confidence in?

While I was mulling all this over, I was halted by trying to choose a business name.
Part of it was my lack of commitment to launching my own business while awaiting a verdict from the company with the above manager I knew wouldn’t work out.
Part of it was my lack of confidence that I could bring anything worthwhile to the table on my own terms.
I ended up getting over both of those by spending more time with my circle of strong business owner friends, and realising just how far and wide some of my previous network had wandered.
With such a huge array of opportunities, it seemed silly not to.
I brainstormed the variety of services my future company could provide (project management, production consulting, engineering, mining supervising, life coaching, travel coordinating, and other things I’d found a passion for over the past few years), went for a drive to clear my head, and nailed out a name which would allow me to take my business wherever I felt drawn, allow me to keep my skillsets fresh and my learners mind engaged.


I went to see a local accountant to get it all underway.

Happy enough to work for beers. Why not work for money?

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